I come from a past of varied experiences: a loving Italian family, parents and relatives who were immigrants, Catholic schools, and traditional values. I have a master’s degree in Special Education because I love working with children and I’m good at it. I taught for 30 years, and I survived and came away so much richer for the experience. I married, had (and have) two magnificent sons, and lived happily in downtown Rochester, MI for many years.
That is the “normal” part of my life. As we all know, “shit happens.” And my life is no exception. My relationship with my husband turned to sadness and depression, so much so that I asked for a divorce. I couldn’t take the depth of depression I was in and counseling and talking didn’t help to any significant degree. I was in a tunnel of darkness, and I felt that I couldn’t climb out. But I was fortunate to see the light at the end of that tunnel.
My faith in God brought the light closer! I moved on to build myself up and repair my spirit, mind, and body. Eventually, I remarried and have an awesome stepson through this marriage. God has been so good to me. With that, I acknowledge that there have been many relationships bridges I have had to go over, doors that needed to be opened into my heart and soul, and a tremendous amount of patience, acceptance and understanding, to make my life what it is today. All of this involves pain, change of patterns, receiving help and an opening of my heart and mind to love and an integration of new patterns. It takes courage. I feel like I’ve accomplished quite a bit and know that there is so much more for me to do.
That brings me to coaching. This is the path I have chosen to give back. I want to leave a legacy of love, light, hope, forgiveness, and strength! The way I do that is to coach
I love to help people get out of the “fog” of feeling like they are in a rut and don’t know how to move forward. Taking someone from being unmotivated to finding their direction is such fun for me! I love guiding people to be themselves, rather than a carbon copy of someone else. I call it “weaving their life’s tapestry,” knowing that each person’s tapestry is unique and beautiful in its own way. I enjoy coaching with an integration of modalities to heal the mind, body and spirit and finding that unique combination with the client. By using the “Six Gifts” in my individual and group coaching, the client and I focus on positive outcomes.
I coach adults, children, and families. When I work with families, I like to enter their space and discover their patterns with them. This is a method of integration into the healing process of several people so the patterns may be complicated and overlapping. Sometimes, it’s a bit difficult to smooth out and it takes a family effort. Brainspotting, somatic experiencing, and “brainspotting in the sand tray” are some of the modalities I use for healing, along with yoga and reiki.
“As Jakie’s home environment starts to become uncomfortable, Jakie starts to feel pain in his heart and abdomen. He is having difficulty coping and his body seems to disappear or become less significant. This signals his “fight or flight” response in the sympathetic nervous system. Stress starts to build, his mouth is dry, heartbeat accelerates, pupils dilate, lung airways dilate, stomach activity is inhibited, the stomach converts glycogen to glucose, intestines are inhibited, adrenaline and noradrenaline are produced, and the bladder contraction is inhibited. He has nowhere to run and can’t understand how to feel anger, so he begins to cry and shrivel or hide into his own perception of himself.”
Tug to your heart? That’s YOU in there asking for guidance, permission, love, compassion, a listener to heart and soul, someone with intuition to “know” what you’re saying, what you fear, to help you cope, understand how much you love and hate, who can give guidance and encouragement as you set up passions and hopes for your future. You may need me to offer a thread to lead you into your life’s purpose and make that beautiful Tapestry of Love that you’ve always wanted.
My coaching involves the integration of neuroscience, biology, nutrition, yoga/movement, and emotional and spiritual (God directed) guidance.
Brainspotting is one of the modalities I use to help someone to access emotions which may be difficult for them to feel. Also, I have developed “The Six Gifts” as a model of how to use our gifts to heal ourselves. Come join me in group or individually, to heal and strengthen what you already know and have. With me, the client is the comet and I guide as the tail to your comet.
I use Brainspotting in the Sandtray with children and with adults who have difficulty expressing themselves or have not had success with “talk therapy.”
“Yes”. I truly love people and want the best for each person. I want you to find your passion and reach for it, to know that there are going to be struggles and obstacles in your way and to use them to become stronger and more resilient. You are HERE for a reason. That reason is your purpose! Your obstacles are unique to you and help to guide and form your character.
I coach in person or online, so I can work with anyone in the country. I also coach individually or in a group setting.
The Coaching curriculum I chose to take is from Bethany Perry ANWCB and CBSP, of Whole Life Healing Collective. Bethany’s multi-faceted approach integrates Neuroscience, Biology, Nutrition, and Yoga. Her Coaching course is engaging and life changing. I would recommend it to anyone who wants to grow and learn about themselves and/or coach others in their journey. It is a phenomenal course and Bethany is an incredible person! My words are written with gratitude and love.
After coaching clients for a while, I became aware that I wanted to delve deeper to help clients in areas that are difficult to reach with the “tools” that I had. With some research, I found a method that has proven highly successful with people in trauma, depression, anxiety, performance difficulties, guilt situations and transformation of patterns in several different areas. This modality can be used with children and adults and in groups. It is called “Brainspotting.” It was discovered in 2003 by psychologist, David Grand PhD, (author of “Brainspotting.”) He is the Director and Trainer of the Brainspotting Institute courses, with many other mental health professionals; they teach counselors, social workers, coaches, and psychologists all over the world. I became proficient in Brainspotting and am now internationally certified to use this in my coaching. Currently, I have close to 200 sessions in which I have used this modality with clients and other therapists and coaches.
Currently, I am in a course called, “Brainspotting in the Sandtray,” This takes brainspotting to a whole new dimension!
Yoga is also one of my passions. I’m a certified yoga instructor, RYT200, and have been teaching for 7 years. I use both Yin and Yang yoga in my coaching at times, as a spiritual and somatic experience.
In the past, I was a Special Education teacher and consultant for 30 years, and have a BA in Psychology and an MA in Special Ed. My work with children, families, school social workers, psychologists and consultants is extensive. It was my career passion!
What does this mean for you? It means that I can integrate many modalities into my coaching and that I am dedicated and persistent. I care about each of my clients. I guarantee total attention and compassion to each person I coach, along with a plan to move forward with their specific needs and goals. I am here for you! If you have the courage to start your journey, I will be there with you.